There are always lots of different thoughts you can have about any given situation. Beliefs/thoughts are often formed in childhood. Up until around age 6 we cannot filter the information we get from the world around us. It all goes directly into our sub-conscious as a belief. At that age most of our information is …
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Failure is Good
The reason most of us don’t achieve our goals and dreams, is because we are afraid to fail. Mostly we are afraid of what other people will think of us, if we fail. But success is built on failure. We become successful because we go out there and try something. And maybe it does fail. …
How to Set Healthy Boundaries
Healthy boundaries are when we tell someone what WE will do if they continue a behaviour. It is never us telling someone else, what they should do. An example of a healthy boundary is when we say “If you keep shouting at me, I will leave the room”. And then, if they keep shouting, we …
Feelings
One of the common things I find, when I am coaching, is that I ask people how they feel … and they struggle to give the feeling a name. They just feel “bad”. Or they say they are “sick of feeling like this”. But they can’t actually name the feeling they are having. The feelings …
Willpower
Willpower does not work for losing weight. Willpower is all about resistance and fighting. We are trying to use it to control our impulses to eat. If we spend all of our time using this kind of energy, we will get exhausted. We won’t be able to stick to our plan. When the world gets …
Victim Mentality
We are using victim mentality thought patterns whenever we find ourselves saying “He/she did this to me”, or any version of this, according to Brooke Costello (The Life Coach School). Why is this being a victim? Because anytime we make this statement, we are giving away all our power to the person who supposedly “did …
Other People’s Opinions
We spend so much time worrying about what other people think of us. But the truth is, what other people think of us is none of our business. We cannot control what they think. The only control we have is over our own thoughts. And other people are going to think whatever they choose to …
The Cost of Happiness
Research shows that happiness is something we can pass on to our children. We literally teach them how to be happy, by being happy ourselves. How much is that worth? Think how much do we spend on coffee, smokes or other “treats” in a year? If we buy one coffee every day for $6, that …
Money stories we tell ourselves
“I’ve never been good with money.” “I hate budgets.” “I will never get a well-paid job” “My business will never make a 6-figure income” If you’ve ever heard these statements come out of your mouth—or even in your head—then you’re engaging in a damaging habit known as negative self-talk. By telling yourself these lies (and …
Fighting Fair
Fighting with our spouse, partner, friend or family member can be painful for all involved. Here are some fair fighting rules that will help with relationship conflict. In all honesty, it is hard to stay with “fair fighting rules” once our emotions get up, and we are in the middle of a strong discussion. What …