Let’s start by defining self-confidence. Self-confidence means we trust that we will follow through and do the things we say we will do, because we know we can handle any emotion that comes up. In short it means, confidence in ourselves. There are a lot of more complex descriptions of self-confidence out there, but this …
Loving your emotional self
Possibly the single most important facet of loving yourself is taking great care of your emotional self. What you believe to be true about yourself illustrates the degree to which you love and accept yourself. Try these tips to love yourself more by taking care of your emotional being: Accept yourself. Realize that you’re as …
How To Stop Feeling Guilty
Many of us live our lives feeling guilty. We feel guilty if we hold up the grocery line. We feel guilty if we don’t fund raise for the school. We feel guilty if we don’t eat the chocolate cake our sister made, (even though we are on a diet). And most of all, we feel …
How to Say “NO”.
Most of us love to help other people. It is a very human thing. The problem arises when we don’t like to say “No” to anyone, about anything. We say “Yes”, even when doing the activity will be detrimental to ourselves in some way. Maybe it will take our time when we are already busy, …
How to Love Ourselves
We are often told that we must "learn to love ourselves." It’s good advice, but how exactly do we do that? First let’s define self-love. Self-love means that we care about our own well-being, and our own happiness. It means that we unconditionally accept ourselves, with all our past mistakes and all our flaws, as …
How to Worry Less
We all worry about some things. Our kids, our health, the economy. But the truth is, there is no upside to worry. None at all! It doesn’t do us any good, and it doesn’t do anyone else any good either. When we worry, we often tell ourselves a catastrophic story, of the worst possible case …
How to Alter Our Past
Many of us have a past that we can say is definitely not fabulous. When we retell the story, we can remember all the things that were wrong and painful during that time. The interesting thing is that the past only exists in our mind. It is only a memory. And we can choose how …
Why Change is Hard
From the outside, it is often easy to see what someone else SHOULD do to fix their problems. However, it is not always easy to see what WE should do, when it comes to our own problems. As humans we often create our own prisons. The beliefs that we have, end up making us feel …
How to Make Decisions
Sometimes we get stuck trying to make a decision. We have a choice to make, but it doesn’t seem simple. We flip from one option to another and can’t make up our minds. Here are some tools that may help. Firstly, we need to make sure that we are not making a decision based on …
Tips for Managing Anxious Feelings
We all get anxious sometimes. In fact, anxiety is a fascinating emotion because we feel like it just happens to us. But the truth is there is always a thought that occurs, before we have any emotion or feeling, including anxiety. The thought is what creates the feeling. One of the things we can do …