Most of us love to help other people. It is a very human thing. The problem arises when we  don’t like to say “No” to anyone, about anything. We say “Yes”, even when doing the activity will be detrimental to ourselves in some way. Maybe it will take our time when we are already busy, [...]

We are often told that we must "learn to love ourselves." It’s good advice, but how exactly do we do that? First let’s define self-love. Self-love means that we care about our own well-being, and our own happiness. It means that we unconditionally accept ourselves, with all our past mistakes and all our flaws, as [...]

We all worry about some things. Our kids, our health, the economy. But the truth is, there is no upside to worry. None at all! It doesn’t do us any good, and it doesn’t do anyone else any good either. When we worry, we often tell ourselves a catastrophic story, of the worst possible case [...]

Many of us have a past that we can say is definitely not fabulous. When we retell the story, we can remember all the things that were wrong and painful during that time. The interesting thing is that the past only exists in our mind. It is only a memory. And we can choose how [...]

From the outside, it is often easy to see what someone else SHOULD do to fix their problems. However, it is not always easy to see what WE should do, when it comes to our own problems. As humans we often create our own prisons. The beliefs that we have, end up making us feel [...]

Sometimes we get stuck trying to make a decision. We have a choice to make, but it doesn’t seem simple. We flip from one option to another and can’t make up our minds. Here are some tools that may help. Firstly, we need to make sure that we are not making a decision based on [...]

We all get anxious sometimes. In fact, anxiety is a fascinating emotion because we feel like it just happens to us. But the truth is there is always a thought that occurs, before we have any emotion or feeling, including anxiety. The thought is what creates the feeling. One of the things we can do [...]

There are always lots of different thoughts you can have about any given situation. Beliefs/thoughts are often formed in childhood. Up until around age 6 we cannot filter the information we get from the world around us. It all goes directly into our sub-conscious as a belief. At that age most of our information is [...]

The reason most of us don’t achieve our goals and dreams, is because we are afraid to fail. Mostly we are afraid of what other people will think of us, if we fail. But success is built on failure. We become successful because we go out there and try something. And maybe it does fail. [...]

Healthy boundaries are when we tell someone what WE will do if they continue a behaviour. It is never us telling someone else, what they should do. An example of a healthy boundary is when we say “If you keep shouting at me, I will leave the room”. And then, if they keep shouting, we [...]