One of the common things I find, when I am coaching, is that I ask people how they feel … and they struggle to give the feeling a name. They just feel “bad”. Or they say they are “sick of feeling like this”. But they can’t actually name the feeling they are having.
The feelings that we have are the drivers for the things that we do, and the results we get in our lives.
Recognising that we are feeling “envious” rather than “bad”, Or “vulnerable” rather than “crappy”, means we can start working on how to change that feeling.
Practicing identifying what our own emotions actually are, is a worthwhile project.
There is a well excepted list of primary emotions. These are anger, fear, disgust, happiness, sadness and surprise and were identified by Paul Ekman in the 20th century. These basic emotions are believed to be universal. That is, they are displayed and understood by all cultures. They are also used by babies.
Robert Plutchik is also recognised for his list of eight primary emotions, which are polar opposites, joy-sadness, anger-fear, trust-distrust and surprise-anticipation.
But there are many other complex emotions or feelings that we have, for instance, jealousy, courage, satisfaction, intrigue etc, that are helpful to identify.
You can find lists of emotions on google. Or you can click here https://lovelifenow.co.nz/contact and leave me a message and I will send you a list.
Written by Lynda Timperley Btch, Dip Psych, Cert Life Coaching
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