We hear a lot about needing to find our life purpose. What if our life purpose is just to do the thing we love?
I spent several years exploring the idea that we needed to find a life purpose, and this is what I have come to believe. Our life purpose is to do the thing that brings us joy. If we are doing this, then we are adding value to the world.
By doing the thing that makes our heart sing, we will be creating something in a unique way, that only we can create. This is our gift to the world. What we love can be anything; cooking, V8 cars, horse riding, teaching, stamp collecting, …. anything.
If we are a human, then we are good enough. We are worthy. Therefore, we have nothing to prove and nothing to earn that can make us more valuable. We are already amazing, and fabulous, and lovable.
Yet we are sold the idea that we need a life purpose, because it is our reason for existing. And we are given the message that it should be something that saves the world, feeds the hungry, or some other extraordinary thing, otherwise we cannot justify our existence. But this is not true. Our existence was justified the day we were born.
If we believe we will suddenly find motivation and excitement in our life, if we find our life purpose, this is unlikely to be true either. If we are lacking motivation and excitement it is because of the thoughts we are thinking. Our thoughts are probably along the lines of “I need to find a life purpose and then I will be happy/motivated/excited about life”. This is telling our brain that there is something missing in our life, and something wrong with us because we don’t have a life purpose. These kinds of thoughts are de-motivating in themselves.
Instead we can decide that whatever we enjoy doing, is what we are meant to do. Maybe that is saving the whales, or feeding the hungry. But it might be decorating our house, or doing flower arrangements. It does not matter what it is. If we are doing what we love, we are creating something. And that something is adding value to the world.
If we cook biscuits that our children and friends enjoy, then we have added value. If we like keeping rabbits as pets, we have added value to the rabbit’s lives. We have also added value to the lives of anyone who enjoy seeing our pets. If we like reading, we have added value to the life of the author by appreciating his work. And if we give the book to someone else, or tell them the story, then we have added something of value to their lives as well.
Instead of looking for something external to be our life purpose, we can look inside ourselves and find what we love. If we do the thing we love, we will be adding value to the world in some way.
Written by Lynda Timperley Btch, Dip psych, Cert Life Coaching.